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The Gold Standard for Raising Kids

A couple of weeks ago I brought to you a question that was asked by Jones, to parents, in the book “The Noticer Returns” by Andy Andrews.
What is the Gold Standard for Raising Children?”

Today, I would like to share with you what I believe to be the answer to that question.

Jesus actually set the standard over 2000 years ago and is recorded in the following verses of the Bible.

Matthew 22:37-40
“Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love The Lord thy God with all they heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.
This is the first and great commandment.
And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.
On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.

Yes, it is as simple as that. We must teach our children to love God and love others. If every parent in the world can accomplish those two things, what else is there to do? The world that we live in would be as God originally intended it.

How to teach our kids to love God.

We must be an example to our children by first loving God ourselves and then teach them His Word. Deuteronomy chapter 6 says it well.

Deu 6:5 And thou shalt love The Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.
Deu 6:6 And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart:
Deu 6:7 And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.

God and His Word should be the center of everything that we do. We must first love God with all of our heart, soul and might and then we must teach this to our children in everything that we do; in the home, outside the home, when we go to bed and when we get up.

Pray with you kids.
Read the Bible together.
Go to church more than once per week.
Lead a God centered home form the time they are born until they are grown and they will get it.

How to teach our kids to love others.

Matthew 7:12 Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.

Luke 6:31 And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise.

These two scriptures are often referred to as the Golden Rule by which we should live. The best way to teach our kids to live by this rule is to to live it ourselves. We must show them by example.
Look for every opportunity that you can to reinforce this and teach it to them. Life is all about choices that we make each and every day; at home, at school, at work, and with friends. The opportunities to teach them to treat others as they would want to be treated are endless.
Read some more of Luke chapter 6. Jesus gives us some great examples of how we should treat others.

The standard is set. It has been for a long time. We just have to live it and teach it. The future is in our hands; in our kids, and we as parents have the responsibility to show them how to live.

If you found this helpful please take a moment to share it with others.
We can’t do it alone. In order to make the biggest impact we must all work together with one purpose.

Love God and love others.

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Your Answers: The Results Parents Are Hoping For

“In order for all of us to agree upon a consistent way of parenting—a standard—we must first identify and then agree upon the ultimate results we wish to see in our children when they become adults.” – Jones, The Noticer Returns by Andy Andrews

I asked for your help in coming up with some results that we would like to see in our kids as they grow into adults. Here is what you said…
(Not listed in any particular order)

To have compassion
To be kind
To be loving
To be a christian
To be independant
To be aware
To believe in God
To be honest with themselves
To be Non-addicted
To be responsible
To seek God in everything they do
To be patient
To be the best you can be
To make wise choices
To have a good work ethic
To love their spouse
To be thankful
To be positive
To be healthy
To treat others at you want to be treated

Thank you to everyone that took a moment to respond.
It would be hard to believe that any parent would disagree with anything on this list. Thus, it would seem fair to assume that we can agree on the results that we want to see in our kids. The real challenge is to see if it is possible for parents to agree on a standard or best method for achieving those results.

In my next post I’ll lay out a standard which I believe, if followed, will have a great chance of leading to the results that every parent hopes to see.

What do you think?


What Is The Gold Standard For Raising Children? (Part 1)

In Andy Andrews’ latest book, “The Noticer Returns”, Jones is leading a class on parenting.
He asks those in attendance what the gold standard is for raising children.
It ends up being a very challenging question to answer and Jones’ response will really make you think.
Before I share his response with you, I would like to give you the opportunity, just as I did while reading the book, to ponder the question and see if you can form an answer.

So, is there a gold standard for raising children? If so, what is it?
In order to answer this question, it helps to understand what a “standard” is.

According to Merriam Webster a “standard” is something that is regularly and widely used; well-established and very familiar; something established by authority, custom, or general consent as a model or example.

We have standards for many things in this world…

In sports we have standards for the size of the playing fields or courts.
In schools we have standards for passing class and moving on to the next grade.
There are standards for how to dress in sports as well as some schools and even work.
Science has all kinds of standards by which to test and proof theories.
Think about all the standards in the financial world.
What about all the standards that have been put in place for driving on the roads? (colors, shapes and lines)

There are endless examples of standards that we have created for ourselves and they are needed.
A world without standards would lead to chaos and confusion. Everybody would just be doing their own thing and making up rules as they go.

So, “What is the standard for raising children?”
Is there a well established and widely used method of raising children that has been set by some authority as a model or example?

Should we all just do the best we can and see how things turn out or is there a standard to follow?

In part 2, I will reveal what Jones said in the book and then provide my own take on it.
If you have read the book already, then you may have some idea where I’m going with this and the challenge that has been presented to us. If you have not read the book yet, I highly recommend it.

The Noticer Returns by Andy Andrews

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Parenting in 2014

This year I plan to focus my writing for this blog on parenting.

God has blessed Becky and I with 3 boys. At this moment 2 of them are teenagers and one of them will be there soon.
Collin is 15, Connor is 13, (soon to be 14) and Colton is 10.
Our kids are not prefect and Becky and I are no where near perfect parents, but to this point we believe that we have done as good of a job as we knew how at raising great kids.
Now, as they are getting older, our focus is not going to be so much on raising great kids, but raising kids to be great adults.

In the next post I hope to provide some credibility by sharing with you our story in raising our kids to this point.
Going forward I’ll be sharing both our successes and failures in parenting, with the goal of providing some value that you can take and use or learn from.

Parenting can be very rewarding, but it can also be very challenging as well, especially with teenagers.
We have been given an enormous responsibility. Our kids are the future and they will make an impact on society as adults, positively or negatively. We have the power to make this world a better place to live and it all starts with how good of a job that we do as parents.

My kids are waking up right now or need to be woke up and I need to turn my attention to them for a while, but I can’t wait to start by writing our story to share it with you.
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I want to learn from you as well and the best way to do that is to make this interactive in the comments section of each post.
Together we can help each other in the challenging role of parenting.

Have a very Happy New Year!


The Importance of Raising Great Adults

Andy Andrews says, “We’re not trying to raise great kids. We’re trying to raise kids who become great adults.”

Our role as parents is larger than most might think.
The future of our country and this world will be shaped by how we are raising our kids today.
Kids are going to be kids for only 25% of their lives. The other 75% they will be adults functioning with whatever core values and fundamentals they have learned from their parents.

We have our kids under our control, like a boat tied to a dock. As they grow older we give them a little bit more slack in the rope at a time until eventually we have to untie the rope and set them free? All of our hard work and time spent with them then gets put to test out in the real world. Will they float or sink? Will they drift aimlessly in the open waters or will they be like a speed boat aimed in a certain direction and gunning it as fast as they can? (Hopefully in the right direction)

In order to raise great adults that are going to be able to sail in the open waters and impact this world positively we must teach our kids to have faith and trust in God, to love your family, to have a great attitude, how to face and conquer problems, how to react when things to go their way, how to deal with conflict, respect for others, work ethic, serving others and the community, to never stop learning, good morals, integrity, how to be a problem solver instead of a problem creator, how to think positively and so much more.

God has blessed my wife and I with 3 boys. I love them and cherish every moment that I can get with them.
But I realize that they will not be kids forever and that their most important and influential days are ahead of them.
They really are great kids, but my goal is that they will become great adults.

How about you? Have you ever thought about it that way?
Please share what you think by commenting below.
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