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Do You Know Your Love Language?

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More importantly, Do you know your spouses love language?

Each and every one of us has a primary and often secondary love language.
I just recently discovered mine and now I’m excited to help others do the same.

What is a love language and why do we need to know it?
Gary Chapman, a relationship counselor, wrote a book called, “The 5 Love Languages”.
In it he explains the 5 different languages and how each one of us are uniquely gifted with one as our primary way of being loved.

If you have been married for any time at all, then you know that it’s a life long process of continually learning the differences between you and your spouse. The two of you are not the same and if you were, then one of you is not needed.
Discovering both yours and your spouses love language is a huge piece of the puzzle that will help your marriage tremendously.

The 5 Love Languages are…
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Acts of Service
3. Receiving Gifts
4. Quality Time
5. Physical Touch

Which one is yours?

Do you like to be complimented?
Do you like it when someone does something for you or helps you?
Do you like it when someone gives you something?
Do like to just hang out?
Do you like to be close to your spouse, give hugs or hold hands?

Gary Chapman offers a free test that you can take online at www.5lovelanguages.com.
There is also a free app for your phone or tablet available. Search “Love Languages” in the App Store.
It is well worth your time to go online and take the test. It only takes a few minutes.
Make sure your spouse takes the test also and then share the results with each other.

Don’t be surprised if you find out that how you prefer to be loved is completely opposite of your spouse!

That is exactly what I discovered.
Her main love language, what she values the most, was actually my least favorite way to be loved.
The score for her main love language was a 10 and my score, for that same language, was a 1.

Does that mean that we are incompatible? No way. We have been married 17 years, and counting, and love each other very much.
Figuring out what we each value the most can only make our marriage even stronger now. It can only help us to love each other more than we ever have before.

What it does mean, though, is that for me to truly love my wife, in the way that she likes to be loved, I must do the thing that I desire the least. I must sacrifice for her. That’s not easy.
But isn’t that what true love is all about anyhow. It’s about sacrifice. Putting others needs before your own.
It’s not all about me or you, when it comes to relationships and marriage.

A fun thing that you may find, after you both take the test, is that you may also have some languages in common.
For example, receiving gifts is not something that either my wife nor I like very much.
So the cool thing is that when it comes to birthdays and anniversaries, buying the perfect gift is something that we may not need to stress out about.
The focus should actually be put on giving each other what we value the most, which is likely going to be different, our primary love language.

Go online and take the test today. Then share what you learned.
If this has been helpful to you , please share it with others.
Together, we can make a difference.

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Budgeting 101: Why Tithing is so Important

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When creating and living off of a written budget, tithing to the church should be the first item on the list.

Why?

When I was younger I did it because that is what my parents and the church taught me was the right thing to do.

As I have gotten older I have learned more and more, on my own, why it is so essential.

Giving away a portion of your income is a testament of your faith and belief in God and his church.   It is a sacrifice.

Since the creation of man God has asked us to sacrifice by giving of the first of our fruits.  Adam and Eve taught Cain and Able how to sacrifice.  This story also taught us the importance of giving of the best that we have and with the right attitude or there could be consequences.

All God asks is that you give 10% back of what he already gave you in the first place.  It takes money to run the church and the purpose of the church is to reach out to the community and help those in need.  To save those that are lost.

God will take care of you when you give.

God has never failed to provide for me or my family and that is because we are first faithful to Him.

He provides in many more ways than simply a good, steady income.

He has kept our family healthy.  He has kept our vehicles running well.  He has taken care of our home and so much more.

Any of these things could instantly cause you to have to pay out a tremendous amount of money if something goes wrong, especially when it comes to your health.

If you do not pay your tithes, God may choose to get that portion from you one way or another, so it is better to give it up front, willingly and happily and be blessed, instead of the other way around.

If you are faithful to God and his church, then he will be faithful to you and take care of you.

Luke 6:38  Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom.

Sounds to me like a win-win situation.  Bless others and you will be blessed even more.

You can’t out give God.  Go ahead and test him.  Give him the first of what you receive in tithing to the church and see what happens.

May God bless you.


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