Monthly Archives: March 2014

Put Your Kids To Bed; Don’t Send Them To Bed

A a newborn, most parents naturally keep their child very close by and never out of sight. When it comes time for the child to go to sleep, often times they will sleep in the bed with mommy and daddy or at least in the same room. They can’t even walk yet, so parents are forced to “put” them to bed, not “send” them to bed.

As they get to the toddler stage they start sleeping in their own room, but we still rock them to sleep, then lay them down in their bed and tuck the covers around them. A kiss on the cheek is almost never left out.

As they get into the elementary school years they are still very lovable and cute. At bed time we may send them to change and brush their teeth, but are very close behind to help them to bed, tuck them in, say a prayer and kiss them on the cheek or forehead as we say good night.

As they enter the teen years, the child begins to want to separate from mom and dad a bit and may shy away from being tucked in the bed and kissed goodnight. They are naturally growing and maturing into a young adult. It is at this stage that mom and dad tend to get away from putting their child to bed and start to just send them to bed.

I encourage you today, no matter the age, to always put your child to bed; don’t just send them to bed. I am talking to myself as a write this because I have 3 kids that are 10, 14 and 15. As they get older its ok to tell them to go get ready for bed, but always follow up on them and be there to make sure they actually get in the bed. Pray with them, tell them you love them and wish them a good night.

Put your kids to bed, don’t send them to bed.
A simple, yet important message, that should have a long lasting positive impact for both you and your child.

Set the Tone for the Day

The best way to set the tone for the day is to play music in the morning as you and the kids are getting ready for or headed to school and work.

Don’t just play anything. Play a song of praise.

Forget the sports, forget the weather, forget the arguing and fussing, forget about the problems coming your way. Hit the play button on a good worship song and sing or at least hum praise to God.

The Bible tells us to pray without ceasing and that we should pray everywhere. It also says that everything that hath breath should praise The Lord.

Judges 5:3
I, even I, will sing unto The Lord; I will sing praise to The Lord God of Israel.

Psalms 150:6
Let everything that hath breath praise The Lord. Praise ye The Lord.

Have ever had a song stuck in your head that just you just can’t get out.
Most of the time it’s some annoying jingle from a commercial or something similar. Why not, get a song of praise stuck in your head all day.

What is your song of praise?

She Cooks, We Clean

I know that I can be simple minded sometimes and this one seems fundamental, but I thought I would put it out there anyhow. If the mother of the household cooks then dad and the kids should clean up, right? Something seems wrong if everyone scatters to do their own thing when dinner is over except for mom. Something is definitely not right if the kids scatter when dinner is over and leave dad and mom to clean up.

There are many benefits of eating dinner together as a family every day.
One of them is an excellent opportunity to teach your kids the importance of working together to help get the dining area and kitchen cleaned up afterwards.

In our house, a fringe benefit of having 3 boys that are old enough to work is that the duties can be spread out amongst each of us.
One is responsible for cleaning the table and sweeping the floor; another is responsible for cleaning the dishes; another helps put food away and I clean off the counters and stove.

If your kids are still young, they can at least carry their own plate or cup to the sink. Naturally, as they get older, then they can do more.

Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

If it is just you and your wife, if you only have one child or if you are a single mom, the same principle applies. Mom should not have to do it all. The work load should be shared amongst everyone in the house.

If you are already practicing this in your home, then you are probably living in a happy home; cause when momma is happy, everyone is happy.

If your household might need a little work, then the following is how I would go about getting the ship turned in the right direction.

1. First, have dinner together.
This may seem obvious, but if you don’t typically eat at a dinner table together then it’s harder for the kids to form the habits you might be looking for.

2. Talk about it.
Don’t just start hollering and giving marching orders. Make it the topic of the next dinner conversation. Discuss why it is important for everyone to pitch in and help. State what you need help with and then give everyone the option of choosing which one they would like to do.

3. Have the same person do the same task every time.
If no one knows what the other is doing, then something will get left undone or there will just be plain chaos. We are creatures of habit.
The challenging part of this though is trying to prevent your kids from thinking only about theirselves and their own job and not wanting to cross the line and help someone else out when needed.

Good luck and happy cleaning!
If you have any comments or suggestions please share.

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