Monthly Archives: November 2013

The Importance of Raising Great Adults

Andy Andrews says, “We’re not trying to raise great kids. We’re trying to raise kids who become great adults.”

Our role as parents is larger than most might think.
The future of our country and this world will be shaped by how we are raising our kids today.
Kids are going to be kids for only 25% of their lives. The other 75% they will be adults functioning with whatever core values and fundamentals they have learned from their parents.

We have our kids under our control, like a boat tied to a dock. As they grow older we give them a little bit more slack in the rope at a time until eventually we have to untie the rope and set them free? All of our hard work and time spent with them then gets put to test out in the real world. Will they float or sink? Will they drift aimlessly in the open waters or will they be like a speed boat aimed in a certain direction and gunning it as fast as they can? (Hopefully in the right direction)

In order to raise great adults that are going to be able to sail in the open waters and impact this world positively we must teach our kids to have faith and trust in God, to love your family, to have a great attitude, how to face and conquer problems, how to react when things to go their way, how to deal with conflict, respect for others, work ethic, serving others and the community, to never stop learning, good morals, integrity, how to be a problem solver instead of a problem creator, how to think positively and so much more.

God has blessed my wife and I with 3 boys. I love them and cherish every moment that I can get with them.
But I realize that they will not be kids forever and that their most important and influential days are ahead of them.
They really are great kids, but my goal is that they will become great adults.

How about you? Have you ever thought about it that way?
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The Now, Then, Us and Them: How to Leave a Legacy

My wife and I were privileged to go see the Legacy Journey tour live this past week.
The Dave Ramsey team put on an incredible event. We had a great time and were inspired.

If you care for your family and love helping others then The Legacy Journey is for you. It’s built for those that have already been been through Financial Peace University and need some inspiration and push to take it to the next level.
It’s about leaving a Legacy for our children, their children and beyond.

The theme centered around 4 words.
Now, Then, Us and Them.

The NOW
1 Timothy 5:8. But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

Get educated, get as big of a shovel as you can and get out of debt.
No matter how big our heart is, we must take care of ourselves first, so that we can have the means to then care for others.
It’s not being selfish; it’s actually the opposite. We must fill our own cup before we can begin overflowing to others.

The THEN
Proverbs 29:18. Where there is no vision, the people perish.

This one is about Retirement Investing, Insurance and College Funding.
Once we have control of our finances, are debt free and have an emergency fund built up, THEN we can start putting money aside for our future and our children’s future.
We must be disciplined in planning with out money instead of just living for the moment.

The US
Proverbs 13:22. A good man leaves an inheritance to his children.

This step is about more than money.  It’s about character.
“What good is money if the person who is holding it is not a good man”.
“More money makes you more of what you are – good or bad”.
You must have a good handle on your personal life, your marriage and your kids.
Love God, go to church, build a strong marriage and teach your kids about life and giving.

THEM
Proverbs 28:27. He who gives to the poor will not lack, but he who hides his eyes will have many curses.

Once we have built a strong foundation for us to live on that will not crumble, then we can be in a position to reach out and help others.
We are blessed to be a blessing and giving is fun!

Let’s build a legacy?
Let’s be good managers of what God has given us.
Take care of the Now, build the Then, stabilize the Us and give to Them.

May God thoroughly Bless you!

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Cold Fries: Another Lesson from the Drive-Thru

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We’ve all experienced it at some point.
You order a hamburger and fries through the drive-thru.
As you are taking off you reach into the bag to steal just a taste of the fries.
And why not? They always place the fries on top of everything else and they are not in a wrapper like the burgers. It’s just too easy.
What’s worse is the kids are watching your every move from the back seat, salivating and wondering if you are taking one of their fries or not.
There is nothing like good, hot, fresh french fries from the drive-thru.

You happen to pull the longest fry from the bunch and as you place it into your mouth and take the first bite your excitement turns sour when you find that they are stale and cold or luke warm at best.
Not good!

So, now what? No one likes cold fries.
Do you just drive on and deal with it?
Do you have a pity party, fuss and complain?
Do you go ahead and eat the cold fries and hope that this was just a one time event?
Is it worth the hassle to turn around and go ask for more fries?

Let’s think about it from another perspective and then decide.
What if you are the manager of the restaurant and you had no idea that your customers were getting cold fries and not happy?
Maybe there was an equipment malfunction or a new employee who just needed to be trained properly?
What about the people in the car behind you, who are going to get cold fries as well?

You have the power to change it all if you will just park the car, grab your fries, go inside and make the manager aware.
You don’t do it in a mean way, but with an attitude like you would take when helping an elderly person across the street.
You are there to help.

Now everyone is happy. Not only do you end up with freshest, hottest fries possible, but so do your kids and the people next in line that you don’t even know. Even the manager should be happy that you made him/her aware of the problem.

What if you decided not to go back and make the matter known?
Could you be mad or upset if you get cold fries the next time? No, because you didn’t do anything about it.

It’s not all about the cold fries…
It’s about thinking of others, rather than yourself.
It’s about making a difference and effecting the world around you.
It’s about helping others.
It’s about doing something about the situation you’ve been given, instead of just dealing with it and waiting for someone else to take charge.

So the next time you get cold fries, literally or figuratively, do something about it. You can make a difference; You can make your life and those around you better.
Even if it’s one fry at a time. 🙂

What do you think?
Have you ever received cold fries and gone back to get them replaced?
If so, did you have the right attitude and intent?
Please share by commenting below.

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“Is That It?”, A Lesson from the Drive-Thru

We recently went through a drive-thru to order ice-cream for the family.
We have 5 to order for and sometimes it is difficult to have everyone’s order ready by the time you get to the window.

After placing an order for 2 vanilla ice-cream cones the drive-thru attendant says to me, “Is that it?”
I said, “No. Just a moment please.”

I then asked for 2 chocolate cones, and before I could open my mouth again the attendant says, “Is that it?”
At this point I am starting to get aggravated and said, “No, we have one more order.”
“I would like a mixed cone please and yes, that is it!”

Apparently, that guy was ready to end his shift and go home or just plainly didn’t care if they made any sales that day or not.
He was looking to do the minimum amount of work required to get the job done.

When I pulled up to the drive through to get my order, I had a gentle conversation with the guy and tried to help him out.
“You know, you will probably get more orders and have happier customers if you start asking them, ‘What else can I get for you?’ or ‘Would you like anything else?'” “You might even get complimented on and even promoted.”

I didn’t say it in a mean way. I was just attempting to teach him a lesson on how to properly serve others.

I’ve had to teach my kids the same lesson every now and then.

The other day my teenage son was helping me with some yard work.
After he completed his little part he came to me and said, “Is that it?”
Just like the drive-thru attendant, he was ready to be done and get back to his thing.
I looked at him and said, “How about asking, ‘Is there anything else that I can help you with dad?'”
I then explained the importance of thinking of others, rather than yourself and always doing more than expected.

How about you? Have you had a similar drive-thru experience, either at a restaurant or with your child?


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