Monthly Archives: October 2013

Sometimes It’s Better to Lose Your life, If You Want to Save It

Luke 17:33 says, “Whosoever shall seek to save his life shall lose it; and whosoever shall lose his life shall preserve it.”

I wrote this scripture down after reading it and put a big question mark beside it. Huh???

If you try to save your life, you will lose it, but if you lose your life, you will save it?

This seems so backward to our natural way of thinking, but you have to look at the whole context to gain a better understanding of what it means.

In this chapter of Luke, Jesus is talking to his disciples about the end times and his return.
He explains how some will be left behind while others are taken up into glory with Him.
He then gives reference to the days of Lot and how Sodom became a wicked place.
(Jesus gave Lot and his family a chance to escape Sodom before he destroyed it)
As they were leaving Sodom, Lot’s wife turned back because she cared so much for the things that she had.
She was hoping to save the life that she had and did not want to lose it, but because she turned back she lost everything, including her life.
If she would have just left it all or lose it, as the verse says, she would have preserved her own life and future.

I think that Jesus is simply telling us that if we hope to be saved, then we must be willing to leave everything behind.
When he says that we must lose our life, he is not talking about death, but our way of living and the life that we have lived in this world.

Yes, sometimes it is better to lose your life, if you want to save it and preserve your future.

I would love to hear your point of view on this verse.
What do you think it means?

Are you willing to lose your life to preserve it?

Wherever You Are; Be There

We live in a fast paced world.
Life is just a constant movement of one thing to another.
There is so much to do in a day that it is hard to be in one place without thinking about where you need to be or what you are going to do next.

While in bed, trying to sleep, you’re thinking about tomorrow.
At breakfast you’re thinking about work.
At work you’re thinking about lunch or what needs be done after work.
During the drive home you’re thinking about all that needs to be crammed into the evening.
When finally home, you’re thinking about getting back to bed and the cycle continues.

In all that we have to do, all the place places that we have to be, my challenge to you is this…
Wherever You Are; Be There

If you’re at work, be at work.
If you’re at home, be at home.
If you’re at church, be at church.
If you’re eating dinner with the family, focus on the family.
If you’re playing with the kids, give them your undivided attention.
If you’re out on a date with your spouse, be there with him/her.

Try not to let your mind wonder and worry about what’s next.
Its coming soon enough.
Enjoy the moment and get the most out of every opportunity that you have.

Do You Know Your Love Language?


More importantly, Do you know your spouses love language?

Each and every one of us has a primary and often secondary love language.
I just recently discovered mine and now I’m excited to help others do the same.

What is a love language and why do we need to know it?
Gary Chapman, a relationship counselor, wrote a book called, “The 5 Love Languages”.
In it he explains the 5 different languages and how each one of us are uniquely gifted with one as our primary way of being loved.

If you have been married for any time at all, then you know that it’s a life long process of continually learning the differences between you and your spouse. The two of you are not the same and if you were, then one of you is not needed.
Discovering both yours and your spouses love language is a huge piece of the puzzle that will help your marriage tremendously.

The 5 Love Languages are…
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Acts of Service
3. Receiving Gifts
4. Quality Time
5. Physical Touch

Which one is yours?

Do you like to be complimented?
Do you like it when someone does something for you or helps you?
Do you like it when someone gives you something?
Do like to just hang out?
Do you like to be close to your spouse, give hugs or hold hands?

Gary Chapman offers a free test that you can take online at
There is also a free app for your phone or tablet available. Search “Love Languages” in the App Store.
It is well worth your time to go online and take the test. It only takes a few minutes.
Make sure your spouse takes the test also and then share the results with each other.

Don’t be surprised if you find out that how you prefer to be loved is completely opposite of your spouse!

That is exactly what I discovered.
Her main love language, what she values the most, was actually my least favorite way to be loved.
The score for her main love language was a 10 and my score, for that same language, was a 1.

Does that mean that we are incompatible? No way. We have been married 17 years, and counting, and love each other very much.
Figuring out what we each value the most can only make our marriage even stronger now. It can only help us to love each other more than we ever have before.

What it does mean, though, is that for me to truly love my wife, in the way that she likes to be loved, I must do the thing that I desire the least. I must sacrifice for her. That’s not easy.
But isn’t that what true love is all about anyhow. It’s about sacrifice. Putting others needs before your own.
It’s not all about me or you, when it comes to relationships and marriage.

A fun thing that you may find, after you both take the test, is that you may also have some languages in common.
For example, receiving gifts is not something that either my wife nor I like very much.
So the cool thing is that when it comes to birthdays and anniversaries, buying the perfect gift is something that we may not need to stress out about.
The focus should actually be put on giving each other what we value the most, which is likely going to be different, our primary love language.

Go online and take the test today. Then share what you learned.
If this has been helpful to you , please share it with others.
Together, we can make a difference.

Budgeting 101: Why Saving is So Important


Saving money is very important.
Next to tithing, saving should be the next most important item in your budget.
Also, like tithing, your goal should be to save 10% of your income.
It must be at the top. If savings is at the bottom of your budget then all it gets, or all you get, is what’s leftover, if anything at all.

Why is saving so important?

Savings is like preventative care.
Savings is Murphy repellant.
Saving prepares you for emergencies.
Savings keeps you from having to use credit cards.
Saving gives you freedom.
Saving keeps you out of debt or from from getting further in debt.
Saving gives you peace of mind.

Saving must be a priority. After giving back to God, pay yourself first.
10% of your income adds up quickly. You will be surprised how much money you can have if you will just discipline yourself to save.

Proverbs 21:15. “The plans of the diligent lead surely to plenty, but those of everyone who is hasty, surely to poverty.”

The surest way to save is to make it automatic.
Have it auto drafted into your savings account from each check.
If it’s taken out before you can even get your hands on it, like taxes, then it’s easier to get used to not having that money to spend.

You can do it. You can be a saver!
Take action and start today. Do it now!

Sometimes It’s Better To Be Dumb


Have you ever come in contact with someone who thinks they know everything?
No matter what you tell them, they are quick to respond with, “Yea.  I know” or “Knew that already”.

How does that make you feel?  Immediately your countenance falls and your like, “oh”.
All the excitement that was just in you, hoping to share information that you thought they didn’t know, suddenly goes away leaving you wondering what to say next. You feel dumb.

Now put yourself in their shoes.

Somebody comes running to you clearly excited about something that they had just learned.
As they begin talking, you immediately realize that you already know what they are talking about.  You either figured it out on your own or somebody else already told you.

Will you play like you didn’t know or belittle them by crashing their spirits with, “Alrighty knew that”, before they even finish?

Sometimes its better to be dumb.

According to the dictionary, the definition of dumb means lacking the power of speech, temporarily speechless or unwilling to speak.

Yes, sometimes it is better to be dumb.
Sometimes it’s better to not say anything at all or act speechless in order to lift the other person up and let them have their moment.

Its a good feeling to know something that somebody else doesn’t know.  To be able to teach somebody something that they didn’t know before or to make them better off than they were.

Why not give someone else the chance to feel that way?

Be dumb!

Sometimes it’s Better To Be Wrong Than Right


This one is hard to accept, but there are many circumstances where it is simply better to be wrong than right.

Now, don’t get me wrong, 🙂 there are also many circumstances where it is essential to be right.
If you are a doctor, lawyer, accountant or counselor giving someone advise it is better to be right than wrong, for sure.

But, if you are having a general conversation with someone about topics that are not necessarily critical to yours or their well being and the conversation turns argumentative, there is a point where it is often better to be wrong than right.

Think about this… Does anyone ever really win an argument?

Assume your in a heated conversation with a good friend and you know without a doubt that you are right and they are wrong.
You don’t back down and even pull out your smart phone, find the facts online, and then shove it in their face.

Conversation over! Now there is complete silence.

Ok, so you win, right?

Not really. You may have proved the facts and your feeling high and mighty at the moment but for what cost?
Now the other person feels belittled or maybe even stupid.
They may also be downright mad at you now and won’t talk to you or even want to be around you for who knows how long.

Was it worth it or should you maybe have let them win for the moment and then go search the truth on their own?
Most of the time, the things that we get in arguments over are meaningless and not worth the fight.

This is a tough one for me even at times. I just recently chose to be right and prove the other person wrong over something that really had no significance whatsoever and I regret it.

Sometimes it’s better to be wrong than right, if you want to keep a friend.
Sometimes it’s better to be wrong than right, if you want to keep your marriage.
Sometimes it’s better to be wrong than right, if you want to keep your relationship with co-workers.
Sometimes it’s just simply better to be wrong than right!

Be wrong today about something and feel good about it!

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