Monthly Archives: July 2013

Are You Making Time for God?


We are all busy. So much to do and so little time to do it.
At the end of the day we are exhausted and ready to get some sleep so that we can get up the next morning and do it all over again.

Did you make time for God? Was he left out?
While laying in bed, do you now take the time to say a quick bed time prayer?

How does God fit into your schedule or does he even have a spot?

If you are a faithful christian and belong to a church then you likely believe in tithing and giving the first of your finances to the church.
You were taught that this should be at the top of your budget.
You don’t wait and give what is left over at the end; you give to God first and then everything else comes after.

This tithing principle should also apply with our time for God.
Are you giving God the first of your time or the last?
Is God just getting the leftovers, if there are any?

Put God at the top of your daily To-Do list.
Spend the first part of your day with with Him in prayer and reading the Bible.

Give Him the first part your day and he will give you the rest.

Why Women are like Spaghetti


My wife and I have been married for 17 years now.
One might think that after all these years we might have each other figured each other out completely, but I have come to the realization that it is a life long process in learning to love each other more than the day before.

The fact is that men and women are totally different and the book, Men are like Waffles Women are like Spaghetti, by Bill and Pam Farrel, explains some of those differences in a unique way.

In the last post I explained why men are like waffles.
You can read it by clicking here

Why women are like spaghetti…

If you picture a plate of spaghetti, you see a bunch of noodles all loosely mingled together in a pile. Each noodle is an individual piece, but they are all interconnected because they touch one another and share multiple intersections.
If you follow the path of one noodle it will quickly lead you to another and another and another.

Unlike men, who live in one box at a time, women’s thought’s and actions are all interconnected and woven together. One thought or action can quickly lead to another and another.

A great example of this is when a women begins a conversation with her husband after they both finally get together after a long day at work or at home.

As she begins to talk about one thing her thoughts and topics of conversation will randomly shift from one thing to another and all kinds of ideas start coming out in a very short amount of time.
Once she starts the journey on one noodle, it is not over until all the noodles have been traveled.

The husband, sitting there listening, can quickly become overwhelmed and not sure how to handle it all. He is a problem solver by nature and may attempt to interrupt her with suggestions on how to handle this or that, but it is really best for the him to just be patient and listen in amazement as his wife somehow puts it all together in the end.

The book goes into much greater detail and explanations.
I highly recommend it.

Why Men are like Waffles


My wife and I have been married for 17 years now.
One might think that after all these years we might have each other figured each other out, but I have come to the realization that it will be a life long process in learning to love each other more than the day before.

The fact is that men and women are totally different and the book, Men are like Waffles Women are like Spaghetti, by Bill and Pam Farrel, has clued me in to some of those differences.

Why men are like waffles…

Waffles are made up of squares and so is a man’s thought process.
Men live in one square at a time and aim to conquer that square before moving on to the next one.
If a guy is sitting at the table reading, he is reading and that’s it.
If he is watching TV, he is watching TV.
If he’s fixing something or putting something together, he is focused on that and that only.
It is very difficult for most guys to abruptly stop what they are doing at the moment and either shift focus or multi-task.
It’s best to give him a warning so that he can pick a stopping point.
Let him complete that square and then hop into the next one, which may be listening to his wife talk about how the day went.

This leads into Why Women are like Spaghetti, which I will attempt to explain in the next post.

Encouraging WORD: To everything there is a purpose


Ecclesiastes 3
1 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
2 A time to be born, and a time to die;
a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
3 A time to kill, and a time to heal;
a time to break down, and a time to build up;
4 A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
5 A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
6 A time to get, and a time to lose;
a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
7 A time to rend, and a time to sew;
a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
8 A time to love, and a time to hate;
a time of war, and a time of peace.

Whatever your life circumstances are, wether good or bad, just know that there is a reason and a purpose for it all.

Jesus is at the center of it all.

What Would You Do Without a Car Payment?


We have not had a car payment in close to 10 years and to be honest with you, we have kind of gotten used to it.
It’s hard to imagine having a car payment ever again and with proper budgeting, planning and faith in God, we hope that we never will.

Although a necessity in America, cars are not a good investment of your money and it handcuffs you financially.
If you have a car payment or two I challenge you to pay it off as quickly as possible and make a promise to yourself to never have another one.

Why? Because there is so much more that you can do with that money that can last a life time.

Take a moment and think of possibilities that could open up in your monthly budget.

What would you do without a car payment?

Here are a few things that we have been able to do.

  • Give the kids music lessons or take them yourself
  • Take martial arts such as Karate or TKD as a family
  • Start or add to a college fund
  • Start or add to a retirement account such as an IRA or 401k
  • Give to missions or other ministries in the church

If you have a moment, please take to time to comment and  share what you have been able to do or would do without a car payment.

Encouraging WORD


Proverbs 3
9 Honour The Lord with thy substance, and with the firstfruits of all thine increase:
10 So shall thy barns be filled with plenty, and thy presses shall burst out with new wine.

Give God the first of everything in your life and He will bless you with all that you need and more.

Give Him the first of your time.
Give Him the first of your finances.
Give Him the first of your talent.
Give Him the first of your praise and love.

God doesn’t ask for much, just that you make sure He is # 1 in your life.

Are You Others-Centered or Self-Centered?


Most of us are likely familiar with the term “self-centered”, but how many of you have heard of the term “others-centered”.

I learned of this term by reading the late Zig Ziglar’s, “Born to Win” book.
Before then I can honestly say that I have never heard the term before and it really struck a chord in my life.

What are we here on this earth for?
Is it all about us or is it all about others?

Take a look at the bullseye picture above and let’s assume that is your world.
If you placed a picture of someone in the center, who would you see?

Would you see a picture of yourself or would you see a picture of your family, your wife, your kids, your friends.

Everything that we do should be centered around others.

Pray for others
Love others
Serve others
Cook for others
Give to others

One of Zig Ziglar’s most popular sayings was this…
“If you help enough others get what they want, then you will eventually get what you want”

When you become Others-Centered instead of Self-Centered your life changes for ever.

Try it today and every day and see how you can be a blessing to others.

Money Saving Tip # 5: Movies


Money Saving Tip # 5: Movies

Going to the movie theaters can be very expensive.

$10 tickets
$7 popcorn
$3 candy
$3 drinks

When added all together, times the number of people, it can quickly deflate you wallet.

Here are some ways you can save…

1. Wait a few months for it to come out on DVD
I can’t stand the thought of spending $50 or more to see a movie, knowing that I can just rent it for $2. All it takes is a little patience.
But for those times when you just want to get out as a family and treat the kids, following the rest of these tips will save you a bunch of money.

2. Go earlier in the day
Not only do you save about $4 per ticket, you don’t have to deal with the crowd as much.

3. Eat before you go
You will be less tempted to spend money on snacks and the kids will be less likely to ask for them.

4. Buy candy at the dollar store instead of at the theater.
The Dollar stores have a great selection of individual sized boxed candy and it only costs $1.
We have also grabbed snack items from home like granola bars, fruit snacks, etc.

5. Skip the drinks
This will also keep you from having to get up in the middle of the movie to go to the bathroom.

6. Skip the popcorn
Popcorn is not only the most expensive concession item; it also makes you thirsty, and you can’t eat popcorn without a drink.

Did I miss anything? Please share any other tips that you may have.

Encouraging WORD


Proverbs 14:29
He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding: but he that is hasty of spirit exalteth folly.

Proverbs 15:1
A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

Or, in other words…

Be Slow to Speak,
Slow to Anger and
Quick to Listen

These verses in the Bible teach us how to deal with confrontation.
Whenever someone else is upset or angry, be sure to take time to listen and hear them out before lashing back. Try to get a deeper understanding of why they are upset and put yourself in their shoes. Then respond with their best interest at heart in a soft tone and bring calm to the situation.

Have a blessed day!

What Can Be Learned From a Child’s Poem About Family


My youngest son wrote this poem in school.
As I write this I am attempting to look at it through the eyes of someone else rather than my own.
If I were his teacher, reading through this poem, this is what I would have learned about his family.

Dad cooks breakfast and mom cooks dinner.
Mom and Dad are working together, sharing the duties of the family.

This family takes road trips together.
This means taking time out from the hustle and bustle of every day life to get away and spend time together.

Mom is very kind and tenderhearted.
She is there to help when they fall down and get wounded physically as well as emotionally.

No family is perfect.
There will be fighting between siblings and even disagreements between the kids and parents, but this is normal and even needed in order to learn and grow.

This family has routines, such as eating pizza on Friday’s.
This gives the kids something to expect and look forward to each week.

This family uses sports as a way of interacting with each other and spending time together.

This family believes in prayer and going to church and they do it consistently; prayer every night and church every Wednesday and Sunday.

Challenge: See if you can get your child to sit down and write their own poem about “Where I am From” and see what they reveal about your family. A child speaks from the heart and can be very honest in their words. I pray that you will be touched by what they say as much as I was.

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